We are all victims of letting passed experiences influence the way we make decisions in the future. We live by learning so it's only right that we do this.
I know from personal experiences (a past reference in itself) that I have made decisions that I probably wouldn't make now and made judgement calls that, now, are so blatantly stupid that I cringe with embarassment. In my opinion this is actually a good thing because it does mean that we are able to learn from our mistakes fairly quickly due to Emotion Memory and therefore apply caution to our next decisions. I have made mistakes, we all have, and I have learned from them (and I'm still learning - the hard way in some cases).
Applying !caution! is merely all we should do. It has been known that people 'shut down' after experiences that cause them strong emotional reactions. This impacts the brain's natural ability to 'switch off' core things that relate to that particular event. In doing this it means that our brain is locking it away as a memory and creating a separate 'storage' facility to it. You're never going to be free from your experience, no matter how traumatic, but more importantly you won't learn from it, you will merely put up huge barriers to ensure things don't happen again. This stops you experiencing more of the same - good and bad and as a being that has the ability to adapt, evolve and move with the times, you can lose out to survival.
On this theme I am referring to LOVE specifically because it is something I am very passionate about. Finding love, making love, being in love, loving someone, loving something. The heart allows our brain to make this happen. A train, whilst having the machinery to move can't operate without the fuel and drive. This requires energy. Our 'heart' (metaphorically speaking of course) gives us the drive and desire to achieve things, our brain merely provides the logic.
When you approach the notion of love and open yourself up to the experience then it is important to take all you have learned and let it guide you to ensure that you are true to yourself and who you are. Love is a risk. Of course it is. But it's how you assess the risk that influences how successful you are at being with the person who is right for you.
I ask you one question on that subject for now that brings together all that I have mentioned. Should the prospective partner's past be included in the assessment? If so, to what extent does it influence your decision on being with them?
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